This is an extract from a letter written by Tony, an adult struggling to come to terms with the abuse he suffered at the hands of his aunt from the age of three.'I know that the experts say that female sexual abuse is rare,' he writes. 'Don't believe it. There are many out there like me who were abused and who are now causing more abuse.'I sometimes wonder how different my life might have been had my mother or someone else listened to the pain of a small boy.'
The lurid and highly publicized bust of two female pedophiles in the United Kingdom earlier this year has raised the issue of female sexual abuse of children to an all-time high level there. Shortly after those revelations, came the report of data collected by the charity Childline that reports by children of sexual abuse by women were up sharply. Men still do the very large majority of sexual abuse of children, and the incidence of abuse is not itself rising. What's rising is the number of children reporting their abuse at the hands of women. Read more about it here (Daily Mail, 11/18/09)
That's corroborated by Detective Chief Inspector, Graham Hill of the Child Exploitation and Online Protection Centre in London, who said,
"ChildLine's findings are very much in line with our own."
This article reports on Indian men's protests on International Men's Day (DNA India, 11/20/09). In Mumbai, men and women (often second wives) took to the streets holding signs and shouting slogans like these:
"Indian male - hapless animal"; "women empowered men unpowered"; "husband not an ATM machine", "options for Indian male - be henpecked or handcuffed"
According to them, Indian family law is much the same as it is in various western nations. There as here, they say, dads are seen only as a source of funds and can be driven out of the lives of their children by their wives who need little more than allegations of abuse to do the job. And the Indian Domestic Violence Act has a "Women Only" sign on its door.
All India Men's Welfare Association, Hyderabad is organizing a bike rally on 19th November, International Men's Day. Below are some of the slogans for the same.
That, marriage has become tumultuous, for Indian men, is no longer a hidden fact as evident from the huge media coverage given to men's rights activists recently. And the myth about marriage, as projected in Indian context - "Blissful for men and torturous for women" - is coming to its logical end with the rise of men's rights organizations like the Save Indian Family Foundation, the All India Men's Welfare Association, etc.
A lot of false propaganda had been done by radical gender based extremists about women facing problems in marriage to the tune that unconstitutional and anti-male laws have been framed to finish off men systematically. And because male-disposability comes natural to the society these whimsical stories about men as oppressors and women as oppressed were never challenged.
This led to severe problems of men and they were under-reported as well because the society was not ready to accept men as weak otherwise who would risk their lives to protect the society. Every man on earth has faced this bias at some point of his life and he is trained to accept it as a way of life.
November 19, 1999 marked a serious steer in the HISTORY and FUTURE of the world for ever. For the first time ever someone thought about the "Invisibly Abandoned Diaspora" aka the men of the world and marked November 19th as the INTERNATIONAL MEN'S DAYand later on the concept was picked up by many countries including India.
Save Indian Family Foundation and its allied NGOs observed International Men's Day in 2007 and 2008 by conducting bike rallies and other awareness events. This year, the Bangalore Chapter of the All India Men's Welfare Association is being launched on 18th November, a day prior to November 19th, the International Men's Day.
Before talking of what International Men's Day is and why we should celebrate it, let's look at some obviously invisible facts of the society,
See the video below, this is a just a tip of the iceberg of the issues faced by men. However, International Men's Day is not only about problems of men. It is about recognizing men for what they and not for the crap spread about them by male haters aka the feminists who have succeeded in shielding all men's virtues with their bogus rhetoric false statistics.
November 19th has been celebrated as International Men's Day since 1999 started in Trinidad and Tobago and is slowly being picked up by many countries including India. This year the Bangalore chapter of the All India Men's Welfare Association (AIMWA) is being launched. AIMWA was launched in Hyderabad as an initiative.
As I think about the today's theme - it reminds me of Thomas Edison, the man who invented the electric bulb. He had made a famous statement "Things are 99% perspiration, 1% inspiration"
Same applies to men's rights movement as well. It is a matter of constant awareness campaign and hitting at our opponents and proponents of male abuse. Contrary to popular belief, it is 3 times easier to abuse a male than a female because males have no support structure and male abuse is accepted by the society as social service.
As I have repeatedly mentioned in my articles that cultures have deceived men, acting as vultures. Men have been used as the FREE ATM MACHINE, the UNPAID BODYGUARD, the de-facto PROTECTOR and PROVIDER, etc.by cultures and in the process have been reduced to disposable entities. Their abuse is considered a social service now.
And men, the way they are, are in a great way responsible for this. They rarely challenge or question conventions, traditions, histrionics and stereotypes thrust upon them. They do not feel the need to fight for their rights - only a handful of them are doing though scores are getting victimized. They do not demand for their space in the society and accept things as offered to them.
To this effect, today I take the example of Skandagupta - the great emperor of India. His stepmother has him sent to Ujjain so that her son can be made the emperor. He obeys her. But then the Huns attack India under the leadership of Attila the Hun. The army of Skandagupta calls him back as they needed his expertise.
