Marriage as a social institution has been at the core of the foundation of societal setups and familial structures. Often marriage is more than just a relationship between two individuals - for other than the husband and wife in the marriage there are two more elements present who either tend to gain something from the marriage or somehow try to influence the shape of the marriage.

And these two elements are - The Society and the Family (in-laws) of the husband and wife - who have a stake in the marriage. Men are emotionally castrated since childhood and made to dream chase marriage as explained in Marriage - A Dream Chasing for men.

And when the marriage does not work, the perverted social setups hold the man responsible for the marriage breakage. Saving marriage becomes a bottleneck for the man and a failed marriage is converted into a crime for which the man is deemed criminal until proven innocent.

Added to that the volley of laws as explained in Gender Arsenal, which are completely gender-obsessed, woman pampering, man castrating and in stark violation of the cardinal principles of justice, simply do not allow a man to break free from a tumultuous marriage. Rather he is expected to be the responsible one and is expected to ‘Save' the marriage even if his wife does not want to do so.

And if, the man does not make attempts to save his marriage - he is tormented beyond imagination. And in case, he does not, his parents and siblings will definitely try their level best to ‘save' the marriage. What they do not realize is that, any marriage which comes to the brink of being ‘saved' is no MARRIAGE, it's a COMPROMISE and a man's life is much more  valuable than a mere social compromise and a man has as much right as a woman to live his life with dignity and the way he wants to.

However, the existing perverted social setups, devoid of the MALE EXPERIENCE of life, fail to recognize a man's pain in a marriage and forcibly associate his happiness with either the existing marriage or a second marriage post divorce from first marriage. What the society, which also includes the parents and siblings around the man, do not realize that it's not marriage, but the man's life and happiness which is more important.

If the man is not happy in the marriage, there is no point in making attempts to save the marriage just for the heck of the society. The society which believes in granting a SOCIAL DEATH to the man just because he has a failed marriage has no rights absolutely whatsoever; to do so because the society does not support men emotionally the way it supports women. This social death is not a single day death; it's a daily mental torture for the man wherever he goes wherein he is viewed with a suspicious eye because of his failed marriage.

Choice remains with families of men who rather making attempts to liberate the man from his tumultuous marriage push him into the same hell and allow him to die a Social Death. Its time, men are stop being forced from dying Social Deaths just to save the marriage.

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Sukant   |59.95.103.xxx |10-08-2009 09:56:55 Any relationship that reaches to the extent of saving or third pary mediation is not worth saving, particularly husband/wife relationship. It is always better to apart smiling and remain friends for ever instead of wasting key years in court rooms and making things more acrimonious Reply | Quote 0   0

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