It is a well known fact that men do not share their problems and women do share their problems amongst each other. It is also a well known fact that the society is well aware of and is well responsive to women's problem and for men it is neither properly aware of nor responsive to their problems.

Though men and women have a lot of differences amongst them, the most visible one is related to their expressional differences. Men are not as expressive of themselves as women are, men are not as gossiping about their daily lives and petty issues as women are. By no stretch of imagination does it imply that men are not affected by their daily lives or do not have their share of problems, but it's just that men have become so numb being disconnected with their experiential domain that they do not discuss these things as explained in Women are Wonderful.

However, that already been discussed, I will now talk in this article about the importance of sharing and how it can help solve problems. It has to be kept in mind that merely sharing problems never solves the problem neither for men nor for women and it can never be so that a problem can be fully solved by mere sharing, however, the very process of problem sharing can reasonably ease the process of problem solving.

It is a fact that most of our problems are psychological which means they exist because we want them to exist because of a story we have created in our minds about the potential and possible ramifications of the problem. Due to this, analysis of the problem is more scary and dreading than the problem itself which weakens us mentally and spiritually. Due to this dampened spirit, we often feel completely helpless in the face of a problem.

Firstly, when we share our problem with someone else, the first thing that happens is that we lighten ourselves and feel heard (even though the listener might not listen). This very experience drives away the bulk of our worry and gives us an inner strength and we prepare ourselves mentally to face the problem and concentrate on thinking of the solution rather than the problem.

Secondly, as we share our problem with different people, we get different perspectives of the problem from the various feedbacks that we get about our problem (positive or negative), because every person listens to the problem from their respective point of view and gives feedback also similarly. Also repetitive discussion of our problem with different people enables us to self-introspect our own problem on an ongoing basis and this self-introspection helps us analyze the problem better.

Thirdly, most of our problems are solvable by us and the solution does not lie outside, it lies within us. Just because of the superficial and unnecessary layer of stress and tension we are not able to unearth the hidden solution does not necessitate that we desperately look for the solution outside. Constant sharing of the problem and the consequent self-introspection enables us to unearth the hidden solution.

Finally, constant sharing can help us know the various capabilities and contacts that our contacts have and such information can be quite handy in times of crisis. We can directly walk to person who can help us with the solution and ease our lives. Choice again lies with men, whether they would like to start sharing or continue suffering.

The motto is,

If you do not share, then life does not care.

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