Men have taken responsibility for the society and their families since centuries. As breadwinners of the family, it's not only the Primary Financial Responsibility (PFR) that lies with the man as always, but also the responsibility of Protection and mostly Sacrifice also lies with the man. This behavioral trait has got hardwired into men to such a deep an extent that they simply cannot think of shunning responsibility at any cost even if it hurts their lives.

In a way it is good and I am not condemning this spirit of men, however, what makes me worry, as a men's rights activist, is that considering the fact that the kind of straight thinking species and logic-lovers men are; they are just not able to realize the flip side of this romance of theirs with responsibility. This article takes a pot-shot at the analysis of the same.

I will take the liberty to narrate a short story before actually jumping into the analysis. Shekhar is a struggling but extremely talented assistant director in movies. He is no less than a genius. But as the society considers a genius as lunatic unless he is successful and considers a successful lunatic as genius; Shekhar was still a lunatic for the society. Circumstances lead to his marriage to Mansi, a successful and established actress who gives up an illustrious film career for marriage. And as usual, the PFR, lands upon our hero aka Shekhar, who tries his level best to get some good work but somehow faces a lot of struggle.

His marriage to Mansi works against him as everyone tries to ‘use' the relation. Also people start viewing him as Mansi's husband. Feeling for him, Mansi offers to restart her career. However, Shekhar blatantly refuses and tells her that he knows that PFR lies with him and he will bear it - alone.

What Shekhar did, was not surprising at all. Most men are like that only. They want to take all responsibility upon themselves and do not share their load, especially not with their wives. As a result, they also do not feel comfortable to share, because men view sharing as a sign of weakness. Here's a tip or two for them.

Since they do not communicate at appropriate time about a problem, men are either viewed as someone not having any problems or are later held responsible for their problems. The need for men's rights is ruled out in both the cases. Due to the bad habit of taking responsibility more than required, men develop another bad habit of non-communication. Also they do not allow others to take responsibility. All these bad habits work towards the abuse that men undergo silently.

The day men learn to share responsibility if not shred it off completely, will set the mark of the foundation of their liberation they have been undergoing since centuries together and will mark the beginning of the end their troubles - hitherto largely hidden from the society at large and other fellow men in general.

The current concept of bearing responsibilities sole-handedly not only contributes to the skyrocketing expectations from men but also impedes the path to the restoration of their rights, and thus acts as Double Edged Sword for them.

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